In 2022 during a 4.5 month inner voicing retreat, I came to recognize ego and experience glimpses of a life beyond it, where there's a lived realization of being the being through the human acting, without the perception of separation.

Though I recognized it and at times experienced life beyond it, I could not free myself from it. When I would experience life beyond it, the next thing the egoic mind would do is attempt to hold onto that experience by trying to get rid of the ego. But as soon as…

Back in 2017, I followed the internet trend of writing “I am enough” in bold red lipstick on my mirror. Looking at those words every day for months, it changed something psychologically inside me. Something invited beyond the mind’s perception of my smallness to see the inner sufficiency that fully exists here.

But years deeper into my journey, I no longer believe “I am enough”. I don’t write it on my mirror. I don’t chant it as a mantra. And I don’t teach it to others.

Nor am I here to someho…

When life seems to be going well, goals are being achieved, and everything seems to be going your way, it can feel like you have it all together. You're controlling everything, and it seems you'll achieve whatever it is that you want. 

But what often ends up happening is it all falls apart. Now all of a sudden, whatever you were relying on is gone. In that moment, it's instantly clear where your source was placed. And where it wasn't.

Even though it's painful, that's a beautiful space. A poten…

For years deep transformational insights have been pouring through me, and I've spent most of my time processing what I've received for my own growth and developing ways to serve it up to transform others.

At the same time, I'm sitting with a perception that what all humans want, and therefore what I have to deliver to make any sales in business, is higher energy.

Relief from low energy, depression, anxiety, stuckness. Bliss. Ecstasy. 

Continual high energy and no pain seems to be the fantasy…

I recently read a blog post where the author described his experience with “the abyss”, a situation he found himself in after spending years building up a successful business, only to discover it just doesn’t feel like the thing he’s here on this planet to create.

That niggling feeling of unclarity around your life direction, what you’re here for, what you’re about, what your potential is seems so common — far more common than a pervasive confidence that you know what you’re born to do.

Recent…

About a month ago, I wrote an email essay called “Can I be met”, exploring the core longing to enter a space of communion with those you love — and how that urge gets co-opted when we give in to habits and “normal” patterns of how humans interact. Since these patterns are used by pretty much all humans in relating, we end up going around feeling constantly unmet at the deepest level when it comes to sharing human love.

The email was meant not only as an invitation to readers to get more authent…

The girl was 8 years old when she drew a picture of her family. That’s my dad, my mom, my younger sister, my older brother, she decided. And that’s me. Each character was colorful, with multi hues that crayons could create.

It wasn’t just a kid-art paper to hang on a wall for a few months. It was a culmination of years of forming identity, a place in the world, and understanding of what each member of her family was like, and how each related to her. That crayon drawing was simply the expressio…

In holding some client space recently, the question emerged, Can I be met by my partner / mom / brother / friend / daughter, or do I need to be always left wanting more, wishing for more, trying to forgive, trying to not be resentful that this person never meets me in the ways and at the level that I need?

That question struck me this week as one that goes far beyond an individual human longing and out to the ways pretty much all of us, myself included, feel unsatisfied with relationships.

May…

I used to really enjoy goal setting. Back when I was a project manager several years ago, planning stuff out was pretty much my daily gig. I was good at it, and I really enjoyed it.

But when I veered away from that path and onto this one of inner voice led evolving, there was a choice to move away from a mind-controlled life.

And one of the primary ways the mind had controlled things was through structured planning, via things like SMART goals, to-do lists, vision statements for each area of t…